| Location | Kidderminster |
| Age | 0 |
| Cause of Death | Still Birth |
| Date of Birth | 22/09/2006 |
| Date of Death | 21/09/2006 |
| Visitors | 17,907 since 11/11/2006 |
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Alexandra Grace Clarke
Born Sleeping 22nd September 2006 @ 9:59am, 7lbs 7oz
(This was written just before Alexandra's 1st birthday)
To our darling Alexandra Grace,
We can't quite believe where the times gone and how long it's been since we kissed you goodbye.
Mummy feels the need to write this to you sweetheart, so that you know how much you are wanted and loved and how much we miss you.
Once we'd got over the shock of the two blue lines (it always takes daddy a little while hee hee), we were so very excited that you were on your way. As you grew inside me, I felt so happy and treasure each and every one of those little kicks and punches you gave me. You loved strawberry milk shake and pancakes and always stopped kicking as soon as I told daddy to put his hand on my belly. I knew you'd have lots of hair as mummy had lots of heartburn. Daddy spent such a lot of time and love decorating your nursery. No short cuts were allowed and everything had to be just right. As the day got nearer, we got more and more excited and just couldn't wait to meet you. We talked endlessly about whether you would be a boy or a girl, what you would look like, what your personality would be like and what kind of a mum and dad we would make.
Mummy couldn't believe it when she started getting labour pains the day before your due day. We were finally going to be meeting you. Mummy started to get a little worried that you weren't moving as much as normal, but after calling the hospital and having an ice cold drink & bath you had a little wriggle and all was fine. Mummy was still worried, but she was probably just being silly and not noticing the movement as much as she was having labour pains. Grandma finished work early and came to mummy without even knowing the labour pains had started. She must have been psychic. Daddy came home from work and started to time the contractions. A few hours later they were 5 minutes apart and getting stronger. Time to go in to hospital. The midwife at the hospital checked your heartbeat and you were fine sweetheart. Mummy and daddy were so relieved. See, mummy was just being silly after all. We went home as mummy wasn't dilating. The contractions felt so strong, but we had to do as we were told. We gave it another few hours and then decided to go back in, as mummy was struggling with the pain. It seemed to be ages until a midwife came to check me. She couldn't find a heartbeat. You must be hiding she said & tried again. Still couldn't find anything. Mummy, daddy and grandma didn't feel worried though. You had been fine a few hours ago, so nothing could be wrong. Another midwife came, but she had difficulty too. A doctor came along with a scan machine. She told me not to look at the screen. 'Why', I asked, 'there's nothing wrong is there?' 'I'm so sorry.........but there's no hearbeat'.
We'll never ever forget those words Alexandra. I hear them every single day and mummy just can't even begin to describe the pain. The absolute shock of hearing them. I still can't believe it now a year on. The rest is such a blur now sweetheart. 'You have to give birth naturally Lisa'..... 'No, you can't have a C-Section'.........'you need to think about whether you want to see your baby'........'You need to decide on whether to have a postmortem'. It just wasn't supposed to be like this. We had so much to take in and felt so utterly devastated and helpless. Daddy had to tell all your family and friends who were waiting to hear our good news. It was so so hard for him. Lots of people came to support mummy and daddy. Nanny and Granddad, Auntie Claire, Auntie Laura, Nanny Boo and many others. We somehow got through the next day, but I don't know how. The gas and air helped when mummy could prise it from daddy's hands.
Then it came to you being born. Mummy and daddy were so frightened. Mummy pushed with all her might and daddy saw you come out. You were cleaned up and daddy held you so close. He always knew you would be a little girl. You were so so beautiful and perfect. We longed for you to take a breath and for all the doctors to have been wrong. Mummy felt poorly and was so frightened to hold you. I'm so sorry I didn't hold you for longer. I regret that so very much and treasure the few moments that I did hold you for and kissed your chubby little cheek. I can still feel you in my arms now and see that beautiful face. You looked so much like your daddy and I see you each time I look at him sleeping. Everyone came in to meet you sweetheart and saw how perfect you were. And then you were gone. Mummy and daddy have so many regrets and they haunt us every single day. We were so scared and just didn't know what to do or how to do things. Mummy wishes she had insisted on staying in the hospital to be monitored after your movements had slowed down and I'm so sorry I let you down. We wish we'd spent so much longer with you and daddy is so sorry that he sent you away. He had to be strong and make decisions for mummy you see & just did what felt right at the time. We wish we could do it all over again. Spend one more minute with you and feel close to you. We would go through it all again and more just to spend that minute with you. We wish we had seen your eyes open and heard you cry. We wish that we could do all those things that we talked endlessly about before you were born. We wish you were here with us now. Mummy and Daddy will never ever forget you Alexandra Grace. Every day is painful without you. Everything we do is tinged with the sadness that your not here. We wonder at what you would have looked like and been like. We look at other children and feel so sad that your not here doing what they're doing. With each year that passes we will always wonder at what should have been. Happier times are on their way with your little brother, but we will always grieve for our precious little girl who had to leave us too soon.
We love you so much Alexandra Grace. Thank you for choosing us to be your mummy and daddy. We treasure every minute you were with us for and feel so lucky that you touched our hearts xxx
'An angel in the book of life wrote down our baby's birth
and whispered as she closed the book
too beautiful for earth'
The Butterfly
A butterfly came floating by and I thought I knew itβs face
It landed on my shoulder and spread itβs wings of lace
I looked and saw it smiling as it winked and flew away
Iβm sure I heard it whisper we will meet again one day
A butterfly came calling and Iβm really not sure why
It just came down upon me as it tumbled from the sky
It didnβt stop for very long but its beauty did inspire
For it made me smile when I was low and life was feeling dire
A butterfly has flown away for I watched it on the breeze
Though its visit now has warmed me and made me feel at ease
Itβs hard to share this grieving and the pain I have within
But a butterfly has shown me how a new time can begin
Written by Uncle Fredericko
Dec 06
Child
A tiny life is growing
Inside a cosy place
Her arms and legs are flailing
A smile is on her face.
Her mother feels a tiny kick
Upon her rounded tummy
And waits impatiently for the day
When she becomes a Mummy.
The baby's smile is fading
But her eyes are open wide
She knows that she'll be leaving soon
But will never see outside.
There aren't so many kicks now
In fact there's none at all
Gran says that baby's sleeping
And keeps knitting up her shawl.
Her life is draining quickly
But no-one knows a thing
A tiny smile fleets her face
When she hears her Mother sing.
She knows that she'll remember her
And the things she heard her say
Peacefully and happily
The baby drifts away.
Mummy knows that something's wrong
And is at the clinic before too long
A scan is done and Doctor says
I'm sorry, baby's gone.
The grief is overwhelming
The sadness takes its toll
Friends and family gather round
As she's buried in her shawl.
As time goes by and lapses on
Her Mother sheds a tear
And hears these words inside her head
Mum I'm always here,
I'll never ever leave you
Although you may not know
I'll be beside you every day
Through laughter, joy and woe.
You'll never need to miss me
For I am in your heart
And though we're in two different worlds
We'll never be apart
Author unknown
Sent to Mummy & Daddy by Uncle Phil
Ask my mum how she is
My mum, she tells alot of lies
She never did before
But from now, until she dies
She'll tell a whole lot more
Ask my mum how she is
And because she can't explain
She will tell a little lie
Because she can't describe the pain
Ask my mum how she is
She'll say that 'I'm alright'
If that's the truth, then tell me
Why does she cry each night
Ask my mum how she is
She seems to cope so well
She didn't have the choice you see
Nor the strength to yell
Ask my mum how she is
'Im fine, I'm well, I'm coping'
For Gods sake mum, just tell the truth
Just say your heart is broken
She'll love me all of her life
I loved her all of mine
But if you ask her how she is
She'll lie and say she's fine
I am here in heaven
I can not hug from here
If she lies to you, don't listen
Hug her and hold her near
On the day we meet again
We'll smile and I'll be bold
I'll say 'you're lucky to get in here mum,
with all the lies you told'
It must be very difficult
To be a man in grief,
Since "men don't cry" and "men are strong"
No tears can bring relief.
It must be very difficult
To stand up to the test
And field the calls and visitors
So she can get some rest.
They always ask if she's all right
And what she's going through.
But seldom take his hand and ask,
"My friend, but how are you?"
He hears her crying in the night
And thinks his heart will break.
He dries her tears and comforts her,
but "stays strong" for her sake.
It must be very difficult
To start each day anew
And try to be so very brave --
He lost his baby too.
These are My Footprints
These are my tiny footprints, so perfect and so small.These tiny little footprints never touched the ground at all.
Not one tiny little footprint, for now I have my wings. These tiny little footprints were meant for other things.
You will hear my tiny footprints, in the patter of the rain. Gentle drops like angels tears, of joy and not from pain.
You will see my tiny footprints in each butterflies' lazy dance. I'll let you know i'm with you, if you give me just a chance.
You will see my tiny footprints, in the rustle of the leaves. I will whisper names into the wind, and call each one that grieves.
Most of all these footprints are found in Mummy & Daddy's heart, cause even though I'm gone now, we'll never truly part.
♥MERRY CHRISTMAS ANGEL♥
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There's a very special place beyond the skies above
somewhere very peaceful that is full of light and Love
That special place is Heaven, where you're free to laugh and roam
it was your time to go there so the angels took you home
And though you're in our thoughts each day throughout the year
at special times like Christmas we all Wish you could be here
Now you're in a better place,your soul is laid to rest
safe with all the Angels for they only take the best.
unknown
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Merry Chrismas to all the angles I like to sent my love to each and everone of you angles
bigs hugs from me to you and your family
and friends that you miss you ever day but
in our hearts forever you will not be forgotin
all my love hugs and xxxx from mommy
Granddaughter of Albert and Marie-Jeanne
Belanger take care bye for now
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Tributes for Week Commencing 13th September
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FOR MONDAY
Everyday in some small way,
Memories of you come our way,
Though absent, you are always near,
Still missed, loved, always dear.
FOR TUESDAY
We who love you, sadly miss you,
As it dawns another year,
In our lonely hours of thinking,
Thoughts of you are ever near.
FOR WEDNESDAY
Always a smile, instead of a frown,
Always a hand, when one is down,
Always true, thoughtful and kind,
Wonderful memories they left behind.
FOR THURSDAY
No farewell words were spoken,
No time to say goodbye,
You were gone before we knew it,
And only God can tell us why.
FOR FRIDAY
Our memories build a special bridge
When loved ones have to part.
To help us feel we're with them still
And soothe a grieving heart.
Our memories span the years we shared,
Preserving ties that bind.
They build a special bridge of love
And bring us peace of mind.
FOR SATURDAY
I thought of you with love today
But that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday
And days before that too,
I think of you in silence
I often speak your name
All I have are memories
And your picture in a frame
Your memory is my keepsake
With which I’ll never part
God has you in His keeping
I have you in my heart.
FOR SUNDAY
If tears could build a stairway,
And memories were a lane,
We would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again.
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more.
To remember all the happy times,
Life still has much in store.
Since you'll never be forgotten,
We pledge to you today:
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay.
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bigs hugs from me to you and your
family and friends that you miss you ever day
but in our hearts forever you will not be
forgoten you take care love from me
Sylvie mommy of Samantha
Belanger hugs and XXXX
bye for now good
night
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Happy Birthday In Heaven - by Winnie Lovett
"Happy Birthday Alexandra"
It's sure to be the best one yet,
Though you left us here behind.
Did you think that we'd forget?
Your cake this year, will surely be,
A beauty to behold.
With the icing made of Silver,
And the candles made of Gold.
Yes, your birthday in Heaven,
Will be such a grand affair.
And I know you'll look so lovely,
With a halo in your hair.
The Angels will come from everywhere,
To sing your birthday song.
And I know they'll be so happy,
That you've joined, God's Happy Throng.
No I can't send a card this year,
Or give a gift so fine.
So I'll just send a special prayer,
To that wonderful Daughter of yours.
Copyright of Winnie Lovett
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALEXANDRA
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY
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Birthday Remembrance
Thinking of you on your birthday Alexandra
But that is nothing new
For no day dawns and no day ends
Without a thought of you.
We cannot send a birthday card,
Your hand we cannot touch,
But God will take our greetings
To the one we love so much.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALEXANDRA
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love you take care big hugs to you
and your family that miss you ever
day more then words can say take
care bye for now love from me
Sylvie mommy of Samantha Belanger
Happy Birthday
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β±β°β° Angel Day β±β°β°
β±β°β° Your Angel Day in Heaven β±β°β°
β±β°β° Many tears will fall for you β±β°β°
β±β°β° You touched so many loving hearts β±β°β°
β±β°β° There’s so many missing you β±β°β°
β±β°β° As you now live in paradise β±β°β°
β±β°β° Its Heaven up above stay β±β°β°
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β±β°β° Sylvie mommy of Samantha β±β°β°
β±β°β° Belanger hugs and XXXX β±β°β°
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β±β°β° night β±β°β°
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Born Asleep - by Unknown Author
“Born Asleep" - such a beautiful phrase,
Always touches me to the core.
The broken cries of a Mother's heart
When it just can't take anymore.
I open my heart, one Mum to another,
So you never lose your hope,
That although it gets no easier,
I promise you'll learn to cope.
Remember your Angel is sleeping
In a world much kinder than ours
And will always be there to hold your hand
Even in your darkest hours.
My own little Angel will keep an eye,
And play with yours in their park.
But you must find your love and strength,
And feed your own little spark.
You'll never be alone my friend,
I will always understand.
If the tides loom up to swallow you,
Just reach out and grab my hand.
X
In a baby castle, just beyond your eye,
Your baby plays with angel toys that money cannot buy.
Who are you to wish him back into this world of strife,
No, play on your baby, they'll have eternal life.
At night when all is silent and sleep forsakes your eyes,
You'll hear their tiny footsteps come running to your side
Their little hands caress you so tenderly and sweet,
You'll breathe a prayer and close your eyes and embrace them in your sleep.
Now you have a treasure that you rate above all others
You have known true glory,
You are still their mother.
Precious Child by Karen Taylor Good
In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
'Cause you are with me still
In my heart, you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart there is hope
And you are with me still
In my heart you live on
Always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon,
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
God knows I want to hold you,
See you, touch you
And maybe there's a heaven
And someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then
In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart
Dear Alexandra.
Fly high with your Angel wings little one and teach my neice Ella to fly high too. Two special little girls who have touched and enriched our hearts and were too beautiful and golden for this world, We will never forget you darling Ella and a piece of my heart went with you sweetness, Alexandra you have two angels down here in your parents who walk with their wings ,bringing comfort and counsel to other people missing their little ones too .
God bless them . Sleep tight Angel girls xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Aunty Lea
Happy birthday beautiful Alexandra, even though you are not her in the physical world, the memory of you is never forgotten and neither is the love for you by your mummy and daddy. I hope you have had the chance to meet mine and my partner's baby boy Aston Moseley still born 13th september 2009. You must have been to beautiful for earth> my love tia bradshaw
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